CONFDNT Corner

Rahael Neequaye

One thing I use to struggle with a lot was comparing myself to my peers. I remember graduating high school and feeling like it was a necessary step. My assistant principle told me to just be proud of myself and I remember telling her that graduating high school wasn’t an achievement because it was something I knew would happen, the real achievement will be graduating college. 4 years later, I graduated college but due to the fact that I was so focused on my peers who had full time job offers, I didn’t even stop for one second to soak in the moment. As I was getting close to the end, I kept applying to so many jobs and not getting responses back & I was starting to feel very frustrated. It was even hard to look on social media or talk with my fellow classmates who were just chilling because they already have jobs or internships lined up. I was so busy pressuring myself with what’s next, that I forgot to enjoy the season I was in. My own dad soaked in the moment more and literally did not stop talking about my graduation for a good two months. To think that he did not put in one bit of work and appreciated it so much more than I did was an eye opener. In the end it all worked out, I ended up getting a full-time job at a law firm, something that I in a way manifested. Years ago, I saw a quote that said never compare your chapter 6 to someone’s chapter 22 and each day as I navigate through the world, I realize how real it is. It is very easy to look at someone your age and think “wow this person is doing so much better than me” but you can literally be doing so much better as well. “Better” looks different for everyone. Your blessings will always come, even if it feels like forever. These days, if I see social media is distracting me, I turn it off. I also curate it so that I am following people who inspires me. I’m not afraid to put myself out there and just do things/have fun alone. I focus on myself and the goals I have to accomplish, but I never forget to live in the moment and remind myself of how proud I am of myself. I work on myself daily. I spend time each day reading books, self-affirming, manifesting and building my spiritual life. Each day I read a quote & verse of the day before I even step out my house and into the world. Before I leave my house, I also affirm and manifest good things only. Once I started getting grounded and focusing on myself, I didn’t even have time to worry about others. It’s even scary to think that we never know when it is our time to go and yet we spend our time on earth worrying instead of enjoying the human experience.